Daphne 3.0

Basking in mediocrity since 2004.

7.30.2007

Too much.

My mom called me last night for our Sunday night chat. Anyone who knows my mom knows that she is the most positive, outgoing person around. But last night, and for the past week or three, she's been down. She's going through some stuff right now that's draining her spirit and I can't do very much to help her. My parents, mostly my mom, own some pre-school centers in Tucson. She's operated them for 37 or 40 years. Mom knows pretty much everyone in Tucson or has educated half their children. She's trying to retire from that but the stress and unknown is getting to her. It seems everything happens at once because the health department paid her a visit and fined her for all sorts of ticky-tack violations. Mom's convinced that she's a "criminal" now. I tried explaining that it wasn't personal. I tried listening. I tried offering suggestions. But she just needed to be down. To mope. To moan and whine and be miserable.

It was too much for me.

I'm the type of person that wants to help others. I guess I get that from my mom, too. But last night, well, I wavered between wanting to hang up and start spilling forth my list o' crap I'm dealing with. But instead I just listened. Painfully, I listened to her story. All the while so many issues played out inside my head. Right now I have a list of shit I'm dealing with and no one to talk about it with. It's the kind of shit that I can't, no, don't want to, talk about with the Mr., or my mom, or a therapist. I just don't know who. It's the kind of shit that you don't want to say out loud. Once you say it, it's out there, hanging in the air, over our heads. You can't unsay stuff like that.

It's all just too much right now. It will pass. It always does. I would just like to know when.

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7.23.2007

My cheatin' heart.

I have something I have to tell you. Boy, this is harder than I thought. See the thing is... well... I've been... cheating... on... you. Don't take it personally. I didn't mean to hurt you.

Since I was accepted to grad school I thought I should do what all the other kids were doing (peer pressure, you know) and sign up on facebook. One thing led to another, and, well, now they've sucked me in. In case you're wondering, that's where I've been lately.

Through my new junk habit, I've connected with friends of mine across the country and even tracked down two girls (women) that I went to high school with. To date, the only high school friends I've ever cared about keeping in touch with are Cameron and Lynn. Then I found Shana and Natalie. OMG. They're like real grown ups now. When did this happen?

But the real news, the news that trumps all the crap that's going on in my life, is that

BEAR GRYLLS IS MY FRIEND ON FACEBOOK!!!!!!!!!!!!

Holymotherofchristmascookiesfrostedincrackcocaine!

(If you don't know who Bear Grylls is then we really can't be friends anymore. Google him.)

I'm now one step closer to my dream of being lost in the Scottish Highlands with Bear and nothing but a flint, a water bottle and a knife for our survival. Yes, yes, he already did a Highlands episode. We can go back. It's a big (ok, big-ish) country with lots of things to do.

Oh, and I was sent to collections for a hospital bill I never knew about b/c the company billed the wrong address and insurance company for two years and never bothered to call me to find out if they had the wrong information. But none of that matters because

BEAR GRYLLS IS MY FRIEND ON FACEBOOK!!!!!!!!!!!!

7.11.2007

whole lotta nuthin' going on

Hate to break it to you, but my life is pretty boring. Especially right now. Maybe I've grown to expect more, maybe I'm just tired. Whatever the ailment, not much seems to be going on and at the same time, I'm really busy. I've got a few presentations and seminars I'm giving, board meetings to attend, and some pre-coursework for grad school to read. Took the hounds to the vet (yes again, what a surprise!). Rocky, aka Old Man River, has arthritis. Lexi has a UTI. Yay! Money grows on trees, right?

What else, lemme see... I love my intern. She's adorable and full of spunk. Heather came from Kansas to visit us for dinner. Long drive for dinner, eh?

We want to hire a sales person. Someone to do all the "salesy" things I hate doing. I'm open to a virtual person. I'm open to Rocky doing it but he has a terrible phone voice.

I just read The Dip by Seth Godin. It's a hella easy read that took me less than an hour. I'm pondering his words right now. The Dip is about quitting or sticking it out. I'm thinking of doing both. There are a lot of things in my life that I'd love to quit. Most of them are demands on my time/mind/money/life/sanity. I'm making a list.

More later.

7.04.2007

The Declaration of Independence of the Thirteen Colonies*

*Yes, I post this every year. We should all read this life-altering document, so we can both remember where we come from and be ever mindful of where we are headed. The men who signed this document did so with the knowledge that they were committing treason. These patriots risked their lives for an idea not known to any nation on Earth at the time. What are you doing today to honor them?

The Declaration of Independence of the Thirteen Colonies
In CONGRESS, July 4, 1776

The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,

When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. --That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, --That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security. —Such has been the patient sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The history of the present King of Great Britain [George III] is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States. To prove this, let Facts be submitted to a candid world.

He has refused his Assent to Laws, the most wholesome and necessary for the public good.

He has forbidden his Governors to pass Laws of immediate and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation till his Assent should be obtained; and when so suspended, he has utterly neglected to attend to them.

He has refused to pass other Laws for the accommodation of large districts of people, unless those people would relinquish the right of Representation in the Legislature, a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only.

He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual, uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their public Records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them into compliance with his measures.

He has dissolved Representative Houses repeatedly, for opposing with manly firmness his invasions on the rights of the people.

He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions, to cause others to be elected; whereby the Legislative powers, incapable of Annihilation, have returned to the People at large for their exercise; the State remaining in the mean time exposed to all the dangers of invasion from without, and convulsions within.

He has endeavoured to prevent the population of these States; for that purpose obstructing the Laws for Naturalization of Foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage their migrations hither, and raising the conditions of new Appropriations of Lands.

He has obstructed the Administration of Justice, by refusing his Assent to Laws for establishing Judiciary powers.

He has made Judges dependent on his Will alone, for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment of their salaries.

He has erected a multitude of New Offices, and sent hither swarms of Officers to harass our people, and eat out their substance.

He has kept among us, in times of peace, Standing Armies without the consent of our legislatures.

He has affected to render the Military independent of and superior to the Civil power.

He has combined with others to subject us to a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution and unacknowledged by our laws; giving his Assent to their Acts of pretended Legislation:

For Quartering large bodies of armed troops among us:

For protecting them, by a mock Trial, from punishment for any Murders which they should commit on the Inhabitants of these States:

For cutting off our Trade with all parts of the world:

For imposing Taxes on us without our Consent:

For depriving us, in many cases, of the benefits of Trial by Jury:

For transporting us beyond Seas to be tried for pretended offences:

For abolishing the free System of English Laws in a neighbouring Province, establishing therein an Arbitrary government, and enlarging its Boundaries so as to render it at once an example and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule into these Colonies:

For taking away our Charters, abolishing our most valuable Laws, and altering fundamentally the Forms of our Governments:

For suspending our own Legislatures, and declaring themselves invested with power to legislate for us in all cases whatsoever.

He has abdicated Government here, by declaring us out of his Protection and waging War against us.

He has plundered our seas, ravaged our Coasts, burnt our towns, and destroyed the lives of our people.

He is at this time transporting large Armies of foreign Mercenaries to compleat the works of death, desolation and tyranny, already begun with circumstances of Cruelty and perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages, and totally unworthy the Head of a civilized nation.

He has constrained our fellow Citizens taken Captive on the high Seas to bear Arms against their Country, to become the executioners of their friends and Brethren, or to fall themselves by their Hands.

He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavoured to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian Savages, whose known rule of warfare, is an undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.

In every stage of these Oppressions We have Petitioned for Redress in the most humble terms: Our repeated Petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A Prince whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a Tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people.

Nor have We been wanting in attentions to our British brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred to disavow these usurpations, which, would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. They too have been deaf to the voice of justice and of consanguinity. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our Separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, Enemies in War, in Peace Friends.

We, therefore, the Representatives of the united States of America, in General Congress, Assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the Name, and by the Authority of the good People of these Colonies, solemnly publish and declare, That these United Colonies are, and of Right ought to be Free and Independent States; that they are Absolved from all Allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the State of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as Free and Independent States, they have full Power to levy War, conclude Peace, contract Alliances, establish Commerce, and to do all other Acts and Things which Independent States may of right do. And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes and our sacred Honor.

The signers of the Declaration represented the new states as follows:

New Hampshire

Josiah Bartlett, William Whipple, Matthew Thornton

Massachusetts

John Hancock, Samuel Adams, John Adams, Robert Treat Paine, Elbridge Gerry

Rhode Island

Stephen Hopkins, William Ellery

Connecticut

Roger Sherman, Samuel Huntington, William Williams, Oliver Wolcott

New York

William Floyd, Philip Livingston, Francis Lewis, Lewis Morris

New Jersey

Richard Stockton, John Witherspoon, Francis Hopkinson, John Hart, Abraham Clark

Pennsylvania

Robert Morris, Benjamin Rush, Benjamin Franklin, John Morton, George Clymer, James Smith, George Taylor, James Wilson, George Ross

Delaware

Caesar Rodney, George Read, Thomas McKean

Maryland

Samuel Chase, William Paca, Thomas Stone, Charles Carroll of Carrollton

Virginia

George Wythe, Richard Henry Lee, Thomas Jefferson, Benjamin Harrison, Thomas Nelson, Jr., Francis Lightfoot Lee, Carter Braxton

North Carolina

William Hooper, Joseph Hewes, John Penn

South Carolina

Edward Rutledge, Thomas Heyward, Jr., Thomas Lynch, Jr., Arthur Middleton

Georgia

Button Gwinnett, Lyman Hall, George Walton

7.03.2007

There are no bad kids, just dumb ass parents.*

*Alternative title: when bad parents happen to good cell phones.

So I'm a flight back from the enchanting city of Indianapolis, Indiana, on Sunday. I was pretty excited because we checked in online the night before so I was able to get a sweet seat at the front of the plane, seat 2C. When I boarded the plane I realized, oh so late, that it was the seat from hell. In the row in front of me sat: 1B: dad, holding a 16 month old crying baby, 1C, sister, running around the first row, 1D, mom, holding the other 16 month old crying baby. If you're clever, you know now that they were twins.

Dutifully, I placed my carry-ons under the seat in front of me. Included in my big ass bag: my PowerBook G4, running shoes, assorted paper products and gum. Weight: 165 pounds. Kidding, it only feels that way when you're dragging it through the airport in cute but inappropriate shoes. Included in my purse: wallet, lipstick, brush, Palm Treo 650 and Bluetooth headset.

Being exhausted, I dozed in and out while being soothed by the screeeeetching of the darling little angel 16 month old twins. Somehow I missed the beverage service while napping. About 30 minutes before landing, I got out my purse to check the time. This is when I found it.

My purse had this cute little pocket on the side into which my Treo fit perfectly. I had turned off the phone and zipped, yes, zipped, it closed before placing it under the seat. The same seat in which the child in 1C was "sitting."

In this cute this pocket I discovered about 8 ounces of orange juice, a soggy boarding pass, and my, wait for it... Treo 650 and Bluetooth headset.

I poured out the juice onto the floor and caught the eye of mom in 1D. She quickly looked away, guiltily. Then I got up to get some napkins from the oblivious flight attendents. They just looked at me like, huh? Why would you need napkins? When I told them that their was juice in my purse and my phone was ruined, they continued to stare at me like I had two heads.

In vain, I tried to clean off the phone. I also was trying to figure out what to say to the family in front of me, whose darling little toddler had clearly either spilled or poured the juice into my purse. We were flying one day after the Glasgow airport incident, so I tried very hard to remain calm as to not draw the attention of an air marshall or the flight crew who would most likely have had the authorities waiting for me had I done what I really wanted to do.

When we deplaned, deboarded, dewhatever, I stopped the father and mother. The mom kept walking with the toddler and crying baby #1. I tried very hard not to come out and accuse him of anything, but I soon realized that was the wrong tactic:

me: hi, I was sitting in the seat behind your child and some how, not sure, but some how a bunch of juice ended up in my purse and ruined my cell phone. I'm not really sure what to do about this, can you help me?

him: huh? what?

me: yeah, as I said, the phone doesn't work anymore because juice was either spilled or poured into my purse where my phone was. What should I do about that?

him: Wellll, I didn't see any juice spilled.

me: hmm?

him: Do you have insurance for it?

me: why would I have insurance for your child spilling juice into my purse and ruining my phone?

him: I have insurance and it's only like $5 a month and it covers anything happening.

me: yeah, as I said, that's not the issue.

him: I'll go look and see if there's any signs of a spill... [runs into plane]

me: WTF?

him: [returning] yeah, I didn't see anything.

me: well, clearly, juice got in my purse and ruined my phone. I'm sure what to do about it, but I think you owe me something.

him: [dumbfounded stare] I'm sorry.

me: What?

him: I'm sorry.

me: Is that all you are going to say? That's all you have to say about this?

him: I don't think there's anything I need to do for you.

me: What? Look, my cell phone is ruined, you owe me something. It's a $500 phone that is now a $500 paperweight. What are you going to do about that?

him: I'm sorry.

me: Can I get your contact information then?

him: I'm sorry, no. I don't think that I need to do anything for you.

me: Wow. I'm really, just... look I'm sure it's hard to travel with children, but you need to pay more attention to what they are doing.

him: I'm doing the best I can.

me: yeah, I'm sure you are. However, you need to pay more attention to your children because now you've just inconvenienced me and won't do anything about it.

him: I'm sorry. [runs away, refuses to look at me]

If this was you, by the by, fess up because I'm taking your ass to small claims court. I will find you. Check my bio, I'm OCD. Emphasis on the O for Obsessive. Like a dog on a scent. Like a fly on shit.

I went to the airline and they were very sorry and apologetic. I called their corporate office and the only way they will give me the passenger contact information is with a subpoena. Like that's a problem. I watch more Law & Orders than any non-lawyer on the planet. Had the small claims court paperwork figured out by 8 am Monday. My attorney client is giving me pointers. I have to sue the airline in order to get to the passenger. It's the dad I want. I almost don't even care about the money. It's the matter of him walking away from something his child did to another person. It was his attitude that he had no responsibility to me for what she did.

I want him to know that it was wrong and he can't walk away from it.

So if you know the family who was sitting in seats 1B, 1C and 1D on Frontier flight 619 from Indy to Denver on July 1, 2007, let them know I'm coming. Tell 'em to have their checkbook ready.

Dun-dun.

In the criminal justice system, the people are represented by two separate but equally important groups...

Dun-dun.